You have a vase on the table in front of you. Or a chocolate. Or a banana. You will probably notice their size first, your friend will notice the color and whether it suits his home interior. Many women may look at the same thing and notice something completely different. In their world their opinion is entirely correct. In yours? Doesn’t have to be that way.
Therefore, it’s really irrelevant what she will notice first. It is important what you like about yourself and how you feel in general. Some of them will catch exactly that quality, the other won’t even notice it, not important for her. And that is not the end of the world. It’s impossible to please them all, right?